#Family planning

[justinspoliticalcorner]

Nick Visser at HuffPost:

The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention ordered government scientists to withdraw or pause the publication of all papers set to appear in medical or scientific journals so the Trump administration can review the material for “forbidden terms” such as “gender,” “LGBT” or “pregnant person,” according to a shocking new report. Inside Medicine, a Substack published by Dr. Jeremy Faust, obtained an email the CDC’s chief science officer sent to researchers instructing them to stop the advancement of manuscripts that are currently being revised or those that have already been accepted for publication. Researchers were told to remove any mention or reference to a list of terms. That list includes “gender, transgender, pregnant person, pregnant people, LGBT, transsexual, non-binary, nonbinary, assigned male at birth, assigned female at birth, biologically male, biologically female,” Inside Medicine, citing the email, reported. The order applies to any paper authored or co-authored by a CDC scientist. Reuters added that if any scientists are co-authors on a paper with outside researchers, they must remove their names from the manuscripts.

The censorship at the CDC under 47 has begun.

See Also:

CDCGuidelines.com/Abortion, Every Day (Jessica Valenti): Download CDC Guidelines Removed By The Trump Admin

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[painted-doe]

Women who may be considering sterilization after the election results, may I direct you to the r/childfree subreddit’s list of doctors who are supportive of this choice and will help you? It’s an amazing resource, organized by location/state.

I got sterilized earlier this year with a bilateral salpingectomy and I’m happy to share any info about the process (although I live in Canada so can’t tell you about American costs or insurance). It was a very quick, easy, safe surgery, and I’m deeply grateful every single day that I was able to make that choice for myself. Feel free to DM, send me an ask, or reblog if you want more info. Happy to help however I can.

[toneshieee]

Stan and his little forest 🌲

I recently drew this last Nov 20, 2024. It’s a fanart for one of my online discord friends fanfic who wrote “Family Planning” on ao3 uwu 💖 I love that Stan’s finally having his own family and getting the chance to be a dad! ughhhh I’m sobbing. I want to give him everything and all the happiness he deserves!!!! There’s no gender reveal yet, but my headcanon is Stan’s a daddy’s girl type and he’s gonna have both twin girls!!! hehe

I remembered that one episode from gravity falls where stan’s carrying waddles in a baby carrier and It gave me the idea like what if he’s carrying his own babies gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhh. Since Stan is soooo big, he can carry both twins on his front XD I saw another baby carrier reference where there’s one on the front and back haha maybe i’ll draw them again next time like they’re going for a family outing XD definitely gonna color them too cuz I just know the babies would get stan’s orange nose gaaaaaaaa that would be so cute!!! I’m already dying from the fluff and cuteness (∗∕ ∕•̥̥̥̥∕ω∕•̥̥̥̥∕)

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[keithanime]

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i know family planning is a hard topic and can be controversial, how one chooses to grow their family is a contentious topic, and often politicised for some reason, but people saying "I know that you can JUST adopt" whenever bad news comes out regarding family planning is so :/// bad feeling, you know.

or "you can always just adopt instead of doing X"

or "oh you cant do XY now! just adopt!"

or "dont' do that! that's bad! just adopt!!!"

or "it's not the end of the world. just choose adoption"

or even "just adopt!!!"

yes, let's just choose adoption. as if it's not grueling and heartbreaking for everyone involved lol let's just adopt, let's just choose this. sure you know adoption is just SO easy to do! sure you know adoption is JUST so simple, you can even hand back the child if you don't want them anymore lol. just so easy. just adopt.

the flippant way adoption is banded around is so upsetting sometimes. did you ever think about us as the adoptees? the ones who it affects the most?

i guess not!

[masterjedilenawrites]

Howdy!!! I was wondering if you could write about S/O asking their clone lover if they would get a vasectomy? I've never felt comfortable with birth control, with it having side effects and the chance of not working. But vasectomys seem very effective and are reversible! If you dont feel like doing all of the clones, you can just do the bad batch! Or just Crosshair, he's my favorite 😍. If you're not comfortable writing this, I totally get it! Thanks for reading my ask anyway! I love your writing!

Crosshair's my favorite too 😊

But let's throw all the bois and batch into this one... Except for Echo, who I headcanon to not have a fertile/working *ehem* member, so no worries on that front if he's your partner. Let's sub him out for... Gregor? Howzer? Ooh, wait, how about Bacara!

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Cody, Rex, and Kix are totally fine with this plan. Whether you don't want kids yet, ever, or any more, they will always defer to you in these matters. They don't have strong preferences and simply want you to be happy. If you're more comfortable with them getting sterilized over the alternatives, then your wish is their command.

Tup, Dogma, and Tech will want to do some research first, and discuss what your goals are with birth control as a couple. Permanent solution or temporary? Short and long term side effects? Cost? Etc. Once you're on the same page and decide a vasectomy is the right thing for your relationship, then they'll gladly do their part.

Jesse, Hunter, and Wrecker will blanch at the idea of getting snipped. They're very, um, sensitive over anything regarding their genital area. Don't get them wrong, they'll still do it for you, of course. But the thought kinda sorta really freaks them out, despite it being a routine, safe procedure. They'll need a pep talk and lots of aftercare to get them through it.

Wolffe, Fox, and Crosshair are actually thrilled at the idea. Maybe not about the process itself, but at the idea of having an effective way of preventing an unplanned pregnancy. The thought always secretly stressed them out. But if all it takes is a simple procedure and then you two can get intimate in whatever way you want with few to no consequences? Deal. Sold. Done.

Fives, Hardcase, and Bacara are also okay with getting the ol' snip-snip, though they will put it off for as long as you'll let them. They don't like the idea of having to take it easy for a while afterward - in their daily life as well as in the bedroom. When they do get it done, you'll have to keep a close eye on them so they follow the recovery plan properly.

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[iamf0rtis]

alright this one might get me in some online fights here on tumblr but i feel like *someones* gotta bring it up

aborting a fetus with a genetic or mental disorder because you cannot take care of them is not eugenics.

bringing a fetus into the world when you can not care for their disorders is cruel.

if you can not care for a kid, you shouldn't have it. yes, that includes kids with autism, kids with down syndrome, kids with cystic fibrosis, etc. its not eugenics, its wanting the best for yourself and any kid you bring into the world.

its not bad to abort a fetus you can not care for. its bad when you know you cant take care of that child but have it anyway.

genetic testing doesnt necessarily promote eugenics, it allows parents to make educated choices about their family and the children they are bringing into the world. frankly, i think it makes the lives of disabled people better.

if you could make sure your child doesnt suffer from a chronic disability, wouldnt you do it? i dont think thats a bad thing.

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Hormonal intrauterine device

“This is a Mirena IUD, a form of long-lasting reversible birth control. A Planned Parenthood doctor inserted it me in 2012 and it was removed in 2016.” - via Wikimedia Commons

[doulayogimama]

i've been thinking a lot about "what do you want your thanksgiving table to look like in 20, 30 years" in terms of deciding how many kids to have and damn, i want 3-4 in that regard.

my family get together's can feel sad because there's hardly any people on my moms side. my dads side is larger and that was the family we spent all our holidays with, because their parties were better and had more than 5 people. plus there were lots of kids for us to play with.

now, as much as i can struggle with the chaos, holidays in a big family just feels more fulfilling. sky has tons of kids to play with, this is better than disney to her. when kevin and i are old, the burden to arrange care for us won't be on 1 or 2 people who have busy lives. then as a parent, even if 2 of your kids are out of the country or city, you have others to celebrate with.

i really do see 3 kids in my future. i'd be open to adopting a 4th if im financially comfortable. but i think if my kids are spaced out 3+ years i can do 3 kids.

[justinspoliticalcorner]

Carter Sherman at The Guardian:

In the months after the US supreme court overturned Roe v Wade, permanent contraception in the form of tubal sterilizations and vasectomies surged among young adults living in states likely to ban abortion, new research released on Monday found. Compared to May 2022, when the opinion overturning Roe leaked, August 2022 saw 95% more vasectomies and 70% more tubal sterilizations performed on people between the ages of 19 and 26, according to the study, which was conducted by researchers at the George Washington University, the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and the University of Michigan.

In addition to analyzing data about medical visits for permanent contraception before and after the opinion’s leak, the researchers also examined survey responses from more than 600 people between the ages of 14 and 24 who were asked about the fall of Roe. “It has made me want to be sterilized more,” said one 24-year-old female survey respondent from the US south. “The pill isn’t 100% effective and I’m afraid of losing access to it, and I do not want children in the future and would much rather be sterilized. I’m afraid of getting pregnant and not being able to make decisions for myself.”

Published in the journal Health Affairs, the study also found that, overall, tubal sterilizations – which surgically alter women’s fallopian tubes and are colloquially known as “getting tubes tied” – were more popular than vasectomies. There were about seven more tubal sterilizations performed per state a month in the second half of 2022, compared to roughly three more vasectomies a month per state. That popularity probably reflects the longstanding expectation that women shoulder the burden of contraception. But Julia Strasser, the study’s lead author, suspects that there may be other reasons, too.

A recent study published in Health Affairs reveals that the permanent contraception rate rose in the US in the aftermath of the Dobbs ruling.

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Puppy Love

A short I decided to put up on here.

“Do you have a moment, Carrot?” Angua asked.

“No,” Carrot replied. “I know who to ask if I need one, but… do you mean, are you busy?”

He sat down on the chair in their shared quarters. “I’m not busy, no. Is something wrong?”

“No,” Angua murmured, smiling for a moment. “Or… I don’t think so, anyway.”

She stretched.

“I was thinking about us, Carrot,” she explained. “And I mean, about our relationship.”

Most human males would consider this sentence to be an instant trigger for a fight-or-flight response, though the term fight-or-flight is itself a misnomer as it avoids the third, very convenient option of freeze – one which most boyfriends, or husbands, often employ under stress.

Carrot, being human physically but dwarfish by cultural upbringing and only naturalized human, just looked serious.

“I see,” he said. “Do you think it’s a good one?”

His expression turned faintly worried. “I hope it is. It’s easy to make mistakes and something that important deserves attention.”

Angua smiled. “I know,” she said. “And, don’t worry, it’s not about something you’re doing wrong. It’s more about… something we could do, if we keep going.”

Carrot continued to look faintly puzzled, and Angua concealed a mental sigh.

She loved Carrot, she really did, but sometimes when talking to him you needed to remember to recalibrate mentally a bit.

“Right now, we’re boyfriend and girlfriend,” she said. “Which is a steady thing. I like it.”

Carrot smiled, a little shyly.

“I like it too,” he said. “It’s not what I thought it would be like when I was growing up, but… I like it.”

He nodded, as if he’d come to a careful conclusion after thinking about all the possibilities. And the thing about Carrot was… Angua knew that he had.

Carrot wasn’t the sort of person to just say what everyone expected was the right thing for a boyfriend to say. If he said something like that, it was because he’d seriously thought about it and decided that, yes, it was nice.

It was endearing, and infuriating, and Angua was sometimes not quite sure which of those things she felt like it was at any given time.

“We could keep going on like this,” Angua said, half-offer and half-explanation. “Or we could try and do something else. Marriage, for example.”

Carrot nodded seriously.

“I think I know someone who can write a good contract,” he said. “Mr. Axehammer on Short street, he’s highly recommended-”

Then he cut himself off.

“Oh,” he added. “You might be thinking about it in a different way, right?”

“Two different ways,” Angua admitted. “And one of them says we already are married, or as close as it gets. But with the human side, the contract isn’t the important bit, it’s the commitment.”

“Commitment’s important for dwarfs too,” Carrot said. “But… is it because there’s no contract, the commitment is more important?”

“It’s hard to say,” Angua admitted. “I don’t really have experience with either of them.”

She snorted. “Cheery might be better at answering a question like that.”

Carrot nodded seriously.

“With a contract, you know where you stand,” he said. “Even if it’s a really simple one. You know what’s expected.”

That was something about Carrot as well. He wouldn’t insist on something – but he’d explain what he thought, and make sure you knew both sides of things.

It was easier to respect a decision, he thought, if you knew that the other person had known everything going in.

“What’s the other thing?” Carrot asked, while Angua was still thinking about that.

“Hm?” Angua asked, then replayed the conversation mentally until she got to the point he was talking about. “Oh, well. It hasn’t come up yet, but I was wondering about. Children.”

Though she’d never say why out loud, she sort of suspected that she and Carrot wouldn’t have any children unless they were married.

Carrot’s unique position in the story of Ankh-Morkpork, the one he quietly rejected but that followed him around everywhere all the same, said that legitimate children mattered in a way that wouldn’t apply to almost anyone else.

Nobby, now, as someone who was potentially a duke, the idea of an illegitimate child fit into that story. But Carrot… no. Not him.

It was a strange thing, to know you were a secondary character in someone else’s story, but Angua was used to the feeling after so many years of it.

“Children,” Carrot repeated, and he sounded… slightly concerned, but mostly confused. “You mean, us having children?”

He frowned. “Does something worry you about that?”

“I know I’ve talked to you about this before, Carrot,” Angua said, though without any real heat to it. “It’s the biggest danger with a werewolf who’s stuck in one shape, when they have children… they have children who are mostly one thing, but a bit something else. And sometimes they can’t really handle it.”

She sighed. “I don’t know what to think about it, though. It worries me, but… it’s not the only thing here.”

Carrot nodded, and his frown deepened.

“You know more than me about it,” he said. “So if you think it’s not a good idea, then that’s that.”

“And what do you think?” Angua asked.

Carrot opened his mouth, but Angua beat him to it. “I don’t want to hear what you think is a good idea, Carrot,” she said. “I don’t want to hear what’s a bad idea, either. I know you’re a sensible man, and I love you for it… but, right now, what I want to hear is if if it’s something you’d want.”

Carrot closed his mouth again, and put his hand on his chin.

Angua watched, and after a minute or so a shy smile stole over his face.

“I’d like it,” he said.

Angua nodded.

“That’s what I wanted to find out,” she said. “Because I think something being a bad idea is a good reason not to do it… but it’s a terrible thing to do, I think, to bring a child into the world without wanting them.”

She reached out a hand, and Carrot took it without prompting.

“This isn’t a decision,” she said. “We do still need to think about it. But I think… whatever choice we make, it’ll be for the right reasons.”

Carrot nodded seriously.

“How would you want to do the names?” he asked. “If we did get married, it’d be a shame for you to lose the von Uberwald name… I like it.”

“Is there an option?” Angua asked, slightly surprised – mostly because she hadn’t even thought of that herself.

“Mr. Axehammer’s very good at contracts,” Carrot told her. “He could write a good one.”

Angua burst out laughing.

Because Carrot knew that, sometimes, the best way to get your way was to come up with how to make sure everyone did.

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[saber-monet]

waiting till marriage financial stability

I feel like abstinence gets a bad rap as a form of birth control.

But in actuality, it's the most effective form for keeping you guarded from losers, and setting yourself up for success. Not just for avoiding babies.

I've never really heard anybody tell or talk about my perspective. But I feel like family planning and financial planning should go hand-in-hand.

You should be able to say "I'm not sleeping with anyone until I'm able to make $10,000 in passive income per month"

Not just for avoiding babies. But toxic/draining emotional attachment.

If you're the type of person who's sensitive to peoples emotions and energy. It just takes one wrong relationship/ a person to change their intentions/switch up on you/decide that they want different

to send you a depressive spiral/have trust issues/abandonment issues etc .

and this just might be me speaking from personal experience, but it's hard to be depressed or drained when you have access to money. Because money gets you self-care, it gets you a *decent* therapist, it gets you distance (vacation, road trips etc), if you need it, and you don't have to worry about being homeless for taking time off